Monday, November 30, 2015

Reflecting - 5

(From my class notes)

Sahih International

And among people and moving creatures and grazing livestock are various colors similarly. Only those fear Allah , from among His servants, who have knowledge. Indeed, Allah is Exalted in Might and Forgiving.

·         Nabi saws said he was the one who feared Allah ta'ala the most

·         You need both worldly knowledge and faith in the unseen to really fear Allah as He should be feared

·         "ILm is not knowing a lot or talking a lot, but but it is the knowledge which brings with it fear of Allah

·         "Jo darrta nahin toh aalim nahin"

·         Ali RA said "Mukammal faqeeh who hai jo logon ko Allah ki rahmat se mayoos na kare. Aur unko gunahon ki rukhsat bhi na de. Aur unko Allah ke azaab se mutmainn na kar de. Aur Quran ko chodkar kisi doosri cheez ki taraf raghbat na kare. Us ibadat mein koi khayr nahin jo baghayr ilm ke ho. Aur us ilm mein koi khayr nahin jo baghar samajh ke ho. Aur us qiraat mein koi khayr nahin jo baghayr tadabbur ke ho (asal faeda mand qirat woh hai jismein ghaur o fikr ho)

Thursday, November 26, 2015

Update #5

This week was weird... husband had to work on the weekend too and it just happened that I was either too tired to go out or there wasn't enough time to go out. Since S has holidays from this week, I didn't even step out of the house for three days! I don't think that's ever happened before.

On Tuesday, I could finally attend the dars and this time I was a little more social. Now I'm in the whatsapp group and my first one dish party ever is on Tuesday! Alhamdulillah. Felt great to meet other desi moms.

I think Nurah's going through her 4 month sleep regression at 5 months. Whatever it is, it's making me really cranky. She's screaming for attention and I'm already partially deaf :|

I called up the orphanage but they asked me to call their headquarters. Haven't got around to that yet :( registered as a volunteer on their site but no response so far.

Don't have the energy to write anymore. ..

Saturday, November 21, 2015

Reflecting - 3

- Being grateful and being patient. These are the only two conditions that a Muslim may be in. Grateful during good times and patient during bad times.
- Sometimes we get so frustrated with the small things that in anger we reject the blessing itself. Nothing is perfect in this world, everything comes with its own flaws
- Satan promised God that he would make men ungrateful. Allah ta'ala warns us again and again that Satan is our open enemy so we must be wary of him
- On the day of Judgement those who committed evil will accuse Satan of leading them astray. Satan will say that he only gave them the idea (whispered it in fact) and it was our choice whether to go ahead with it or not
- so we should try to be grateful, even for the smallest of things

Thursday, November 19, 2015

Update #4

This week seems like it's been going on forever. I don't know why. I can't wait for tomorrow and not cooking. Maybe that's why!

Last weekend, we went to Little India. Shopped at Mustafa and had lunch at Kailash Parbat which is a favorite. Realized after comparing to IR that except for the chaat, it's not really value for money.

S is going to her term field trip tomorrow iA. She's so excited. Tomorrow is also her last day of school so I'll have to figure out how to keep her occupied from Monday onwards.

Nu has learned how to rotate on her tummy and is still getting frustrated while trying to turn onto her back. It's quite funny. S is getting really good at getting Nu to keep quiet: singing songs to her, rattling her toys, having the stethoscope make its noise. Today and yesterday went worse than usual as M was working late. Hoping tomorrow will be better in sha Allah.

Mummy baba are back home alhamdulillah. Now waiting to go see them and have them play with the kids.

Sunday, November 15, 2015

Reflecting - 4

Too troubled by the violence all over the world to think clearly. I feel so helpless and think at the same time: Surely claiming helplessness can't be a solution.   Surely, there must be something we can do besides making dua. I keep thinking that if every terrorist claiming to follow Islam,  actually understood the Qur'an, they would never attempt such a thing knowing they would have to answer to Allah ta'ala one day. These people though are beyond my reach but my family is within my reach... and I must do what I can so we learn the real message of Islam.

And beyond that I think that when Allah ta'ala asks me... what did you do to help? What did you do that reflected the real religion of Islam... Then what am I going to say? I mean how many times are we going to *say* this is not Islam? We need to stop talking and start doing. Surely, our littlest efforts are being watched by Allah ta'ala. My goal for this week is to contact the orphanage that Sister Ayesha told me about and find out what I can do to help. One tiny bit at a time in sha Allah.

Thursday, November 12, 2015

Update #3

- On Friday, we went to Islamic Restaurant  (yes, again. Might even go this weekend too). Walked a great deal because we went to Bugis Junction mall later  (amazing chocolate almond icecream at Baskin31Robbins;)).
- was too tired to go out on Saturday. Husband cooked a full Chindian meal. We almost never go out on Sundays, but made an exception this time and went to Vivocity. Ugh, hours of walking + baby wearing on a few hours of sleep = massive tears-inducing headache. No more big trips on Sundays.
- Tuesday was a Happy Diwali holiday and we went to the mall just because.
- Nurah's new first and one I've been waiting for: eating feet. Soooooooooooo cute.
- Inter-sister play is picking up. Just so ♡
- my first Upwork job and my contract was put on hold because the client's account was suspended. He was responsive on email though so I hope it gets resolved soon and that I get paid. Tiny job so the money isn't an issue thankfully

That's all for now

Saturday, November 7, 2015

Reflecting - 2

This week in our Quran class we covered ayah 53 of Surah Ahzab that begins with the following words :

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا تَدْخُلُوا بُيُوتَ النَّبِيِّ إِلَّا أَنْ يُؤْذَنَ لَكُمْ إِلَىٰ طَعَامٍ غَيْرَ نَاظِرِينَ إِنَاهُ وَلَٰكِنْ إِذَا دُعِيتُمْ فَادْخُلُوا فَإِذَا طَعِمْتُمْ فَانْتَشِرُوا وَلَا مُسْتَأْنِسِينَ لِحَدِيثٍ ۚ إِنَّ ذَٰلِكُمْ كَانَ يُؤْذِي النَّبِيَّ فَيَسْتَحْيِي مِنْكُمْ ۖ وَاللَّهُ لَا يَسْتَحْيِي مِنَ الْحَقِّ ۚ

O  you  who  have  believed,  do  not  enter  the  houses  of  the  Prophet  except  when  you  are permitted  for  a  meal,  without  awaiting  its  readiness.  But  when  you  are  invited,  then enter;  and  when  you  have  eaten,  disperse  without  seeking  to  remain  for  conversation. Indeed,  that  [behavior]  was  troubling  the  Prophet,  and  he  is  shy  of  [dismissing]  you.  But Allah is  not  shy of the truth.

It's quite common in our culture to stay back and even overstay for a chat after having lunch or dinner at someone's house. While this isn't an issue if the host is the one asking you to stay,  we should be mindful that we're not wasting the host's time or our own. Ustazah said a person of Taqwa would not waste their own time or someone else's. May Allah ta'ala help us keep a check on our taqwa in the smallest of matters.

Monday, November 2, 2015


This Saturday we spent a looong time outside... having lunch at Islamic Restaurant (finger-licking good alhamdulillah), then Golden Landmark for a few minutes and then Sultan mosque for Asr. Finally we were having haze-free days,  so I really wanted to go to Marina Bay. So we wandered around Marina Bay Sands Shoppes for a bit, then watched the sound and light show over the water mainly for Sarah's entertainment. She didn't like it at all, probably felt scared. Was a beautiful day though. Walked 10010 steps according to my S Health app!

Nothing much to report about the weekdays. Trying to pack in more together so a little tiring. Parents should be returning from their vacation soon. Makes me feel sad for them.

That's all for now.