Monday, April 22, 2013

When will we Muslims wake up?

A few weeks ago, I glanced at the newspaper and saw the headline 'Communal violence in Burma' and I prayed, please, please don't let Muslims be one of the parties. I squinted at the article and found my fears to be true. 

With a heavy heart, I looked at Baba and said, 'How can Muslims be involved in so much violence? Why are so many killings happening in Muslim countries? How are so many Muslims killing and being killed?' And Baba said, 'Because we've forgotten our values, the basic tenets of our religion so Allah ta'ala is trying to teach us a lesson'...

I'm currently studying these verses (below) and the teacher, Dr. Farhat Hashmi, emphasised that it's taking care of the people around us that is mentioned first and then the prayer. Allah's commmandments to the Muslms of those times (the Jews) hold true for us too. What are we doing? 

Surah Baqarah, verse 83:
And (remember) when We made a covenant with the Children of Israel, (saying): Worship none save Allah (only), and be good to parents and to kindred and to orphans and the needy, and speak kindly to mankind; and establish worship and pay the poor-due. Then, after that, ye slid back, save a few of you, being averse.

When it says 'be good to parents' and 'speak kindly to mankind', the word used is 'ihsan' whose true import isn't reflected in this translation. Ihsan means to be better in goodness than the other, to behave better than the other, to always be a degree higher in the goodness of your manners, your behaviour... and also to always remember that God is watching us and that we're accountable for everything we say and do, so to say the best and do the best.

Ya Allah, make us of the Muhsineen. 

Wednesday, April 17, 2013

First post on LAG up!

I've been taking the Like A Garment course on Halal (lawful) Intimacy by Yasir Qadhi. Here are some notes on the second session, the 5 Languages of Love. It's based on Gary Chapman's book but with an Islamic twist.


Tuesday, April 16, 2013

Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi rajiun

"Surely we belong to God and to Him we will return"

I'm in shock after reading the coverage of the Boston Marathon blasts. This was just the tip of the iceberg. Only yesterday we were watching the news on Al Jazeera where they reported more than 30 people dead across Iraq in bomb blasts. Bomb blasts in Pakistan, Syria and Iraq hardly make the front page anymore, do they? How many people are dying preventable deaths everyday?!

All these killings are really, terribly sad and scary. Who are these people? How can they be stopped? Here, I'm tired of seeing reports of bestial crimes, especially against women and children. What kind of world is this?! What drives people to do such barbaric, inhuman acts?! What is this lust for power and greed that blinds people and turns them into monsters?!

Ya Allah, surely you will bring us all to account for all our deeds, especially these vile perpetrators who've killed innocents and ruined the lives of so many. Ya Allah, please  let these people be guided, please let them come to their senses... Ya Allah please protect us and help us to take action to prevent such horrendous crimes from happening in the future.

Updated to add: A video of Sheikh Abdul Nasir Jangda on with his response to the Boston Marathon tragedy. We need prayers for humanity.

Tuesday, April 9, 2013

Almost 9

2 (no, 4)  weeks ago:

Sarah, as you lie in my lap, or half-lie, your current favourite way to fall asleep, let me state the one thing that has struck me over the past month: I love the way you love me. I know a mother's love is unconditional and it is, but it is so fulfilling to see and feel your love, alhamdulillah. I've always been one for touchy-feely love and I can't put into words the way I feel when you come crawling towards me and put your head in my lap, or when we're just hugging cheek-to-cheek, or when you close your eyes and laugh when I tickle you... I love you so much and am so grateful for the blessing you are alhamdulillah.

Your current favourite person is your Ammaarah didi and you squeal and laugh when you see her. She loves you so much too in her crazy, almost violent ways and it's beautiful to hear both of you laughing together. Baba and Nanu also are the happy recipients of your excited, hand-clapping love as is Munawwar bi!

You've become very naughty and eating at the dastar-khwan has become almost impossible because you HAVE to get into everything. If by a miracle you're not interested in the food spread out, you're crawling at high speed towards the door or the nearest pair of slippers. I usually never manage to eat with everyone else or Baba who's always done early takes you away to the jhula or the tv room so the rest of us can eat in peace.

Your current obsession is learning to stand and now you will lean on the gaw takya and then stand up leaning against the wall. You love crawling under the table and chairs and start crying when stuck. You make clicking noises with your tongue when you're in your exploratory mode. You can say 'dadada' and 'tatata', when you're sleepy you say 'abbvwuu' and you rant using a combination of the sounds above when you're really frustrated.

You're not a fussy eater alhamdulillah. You eat rice cereal, khichdi, bananas, boiled potatoes, zatar, boiled dal (favourite!) and will bug your grandparents for tea whenever you see them having some.

Updated today: Sarah, you stood for a few seconds without any support today!
You do this really cute sideways   bending thing, then laugh when we copy you. You laugh when nanu starts aa chuchchu and are trying to learn how to say aao by extending your palm in front of you. You love grabbing peoples lips or noses -- Ouch!

You also got your first bruise when you fell two days ago.

As you ce closer to completing 9 months, I just want to say that despite all the sleepless nights (you're meeting all your other milestones so well, why not this one?! :'( ) and having to hover around you constantly, I love you so so much and am so grateful for you.

Lots of love,
Your mommy


[Published more than a week after this post was written! :| ]

Hello, hello, assalamualaikum!

This is a reminder that this blog is not dead, and to add some content that will prevent this blog from falling completely into the mommy blog category. I have only 3 minutes before the current goes off so I just wanted to list what I've been doing these past few months:

  • Babysitting Sarah, chores, Babysitting Sarah, chores, etc.
  • Joined the Quran Certificate course from Al Huda! Alhamdulillah, yes, it definitely is one of the best decisions I have taken in my life so far, just like they said in the welcome email.
  • Cooking! Cooked more times than I have in the previous year (Not saying much at all since we had a cook :| )
  • Spending time with the fambly, though thanks to Sarah it's not always 100% 
  • Reading. One of the best books I've read in a LONG time: The Butterfly Mosque
  • I'm going to add some more parenting books to the list soon, insha'allah. Yes, people around me make fun of me for making parenting such an academic exercise, well, my kid, my rules!
  • That'll have to do for now. 8 month post coming up soon. Yes, very close to the 9 month mark. Thank you, Sarahbb or let's call you by your new name that Md chacha gave you: Doodhpeda!