Monday, May 20, 2013

Ten!


Sarah, you've reached double digits in months, alhamdulillah! Your (month) birthday was particularly poignant because one dear little boy from the July 2012 birth club on BabyCenter passed away from a rare genetic disease called SMA, a few days after he turned 10 months old. With all the religious knowledge I have, I don't think I would have been half as strong as his mom who not only shared his story with us but reminded us through their suffering to hold our babies and loved ones a little more tighter everyday. Alhamdulillah, inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un.

This month was anything but uneventful, Sarah. When we went to get your measles vaccination, we were told that your immunity would be low for a month... as it turned out, just a couple of weeks after your vaccination, you came down with a high fever and  suddenly one morning, I found you jerking your head in a strange way that made me cry out for Baba in fear. My first instinct was right, you were having a mild seizure. We rushed to the hospital where you had another short one and the doctor told us that it was a 'febrile seizure' (fever-related). We've been told that the next time you have a fever, we have to be very careful to give you paracetamol and another anti-seizure medicine on time. We'll have to be watching out for this until you're six. I pray that you'll never have one again, it was just too terrifying to watch even if it is supposedly harmless.

You're doing so many funny things, Sarah, and there's been some great progress on the sleep front. Here is all that I can remember right now:
- There have been a few nights where you woke up only once or twice. Somebody pinch me.
- After some coercing by both of your grandmoms, I started you on a bottle of whole milk. Predictably, you're not in love with nursing anymore. Even though I knew you needed it, it still feels like rejection. However, things have been looking up slightly since yesterday, so I'm hoping hard that we can reach the 1 year mark. 
- You laugh when you sneeze! It's so cute :)
- You have an awesome time playing with Ammaarah. If both of you are playing and she gets busy with something, you'll go and nudge her in your own way and then there's chaos again. It's so beautiful, masha'allah. I was just thinking today that this is probably the longest time that you guys will spend together, I'm sure Ammaarah will remember everything you did and tell you when you grow up. I wish you could remember too. 
- You love grabbing and eating our hair :| Poor Ammaarah faces the brunt of this because her hair is more reachable. Of course she enjoys any interaction with you, so most of the time she's offering her head to you, or we're playing 'Sarah, didi ke sir pe tak tak karo!'
- You're showing the first signs of naughtiness. You'll start scurrying away if you see me coming after you for picking up someone's chappals. You turn back and check to see if I'm really coming. If I'm not, you promptly settle down to chew them again (EWW!) If you see me coming after you, you become miss smartypants and drop the one you had and move on to the farther one!
- You're just beginning to grasp '____ kahan hai?' Not quite there yet, no.
- If someone's reciting the Qur'an or even aa chuchchu, you'll go on blabbering as if you're joining in
- You LOVE all kinds of kebabs and gosht, chicken, mutton... doesn't matter if the masala is driving you crazy, you want MORE!
- You stood independently for a few seconds for the first time a few days ago. And only because you were so busy trying to stuff a piece of Hide & Seek in your mouth that you let go of both your hands! Your legs wobbled for a few seconds and then you finally plopped down!
- We spent a few days at your paternal grandparents', oh, how you love the tricycle they got you!
- You spend most of your time messing up the house. You pull out everything that's within your reach and throw it down. As if your Nanu wasn't pulling out her hair about the mess already! You understand when I say girgaya and I *think* you sort of say it too
- When I have to cook, I put you in your high chair and give you some of your didi's cereal that you nimbly put in your mouth. What progress, masha'allah!
- Just like your didi, you're CRAZY about mangoes. You justcannotwait till Nanu finishes cutting them up, no, you'll repeatedly grab the peel and try stuffing it in your mouth nonstop. 
- I'm finding potty training very intimidating. Why can't you figure it out on your own? :s
- You start crying when you see Nanu put on her scarf and smile when you see me put on mine because you know you're going out too :)
- You're beginning to show some interest in TV now. When you see people's faces in the newspaper, you try to pick at them as if they're stickers!
- You smiled at your daddy on Skype and even did the head-dipping-taa
- You take two long naps and sometimes a third shorter one. Alhamdulillah
- You now take a bath while sitting in your didi's plastic chair! Alhamdulillah
- We play lots of games and there's lots of giggling :) I run around with you, or hang you upside down onto a cushion, or tickle you.... I think it's the most beautiful sound in the world :)

I love you, SarahBB. Mmmmmmmmmmmmmwah!

PS: You not only have a friend coming soon, but another cousin too, insha'allah!


Monday, April 22, 2013

When will we Muslims wake up?

A few weeks ago, I glanced at the newspaper and saw the headline 'Communal violence in Burma' and I prayed, please, please don't let Muslims be one of the parties. I squinted at the article and found my fears to be true. 

With a heavy heart, I looked at Baba and said, 'How can Muslims be involved in so much violence? Why are so many killings happening in Muslim countries? How are so many Muslims killing and being killed?' And Baba said, 'Because we've forgotten our values, the basic tenets of our religion so Allah ta'ala is trying to teach us a lesson'...

I'm currently studying these verses (below) and the teacher, Dr. Farhat Hashmi, emphasised that it's taking care of the people around us that is mentioned first and then the prayer. Allah's commmandments to the Muslms of those times (the Jews) hold true for us too. What are we doing? 

Surah Baqarah, verse 83:
And (remember) when We made a covenant with the Children of Israel, (saying): Worship none save Allah (only), and be good to parents and to kindred and to orphans and the needy, and speak kindly to mankind; and establish worship and pay the poor-due. Then, after that, ye slid back, save a few of you, being averse.

When it says 'be good to parents' and 'speak kindly to mankind', the word used is 'ihsan' whose true import isn't reflected in this translation. Ihsan means to be better in goodness than the other, to behave better than the other, to always be a degree higher in the goodness of your manners, your behaviour... and also to always remember that God is watching us and that we're accountable for everything we say and do, so to say the best and do the best.

Ya Allah, make us of the Muhsineen. 

Wednesday, April 17, 2013

First post on LAG up!

I've been taking the Like A Garment course on Halal (lawful) Intimacy by Yasir Qadhi. Here are some notes on the second session, the 5 Languages of Love. It's based on Gary Chapman's book but with an Islamic twist.

Amazing.

Tuesday, April 16, 2013

Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi rajiun

"Surely we belong to God and to Him we will return"

I'm in shock after reading the coverage of the Boston Marathon blasts. This was just the tip of the iceberg. Only yesterday we were watching the news on Al Jazeera where they reported more than 30 people dead across Iraq in bomb blasts. Bomb blasts in Pakistan, Syria and Iraq hardly make the front page anymore, do they? How many people are dying preventable deaths everyday?!

All these killings are really, terribly sad and scary. Who are these people? How can they be stopped? Here, I'm tired of seeing reports of bestial crimes, especially against women and children. What kind of world is this?! What drives people to do such barbaric, inhuman acts?! What is this lust for power and greed that blinds people and turns them into monsters?!

Ya Allah, surely you will bring us all to account for all our deeds, especially these vile perpetrators who've killed innocents and ruined the lives of so many. Ya Allah, please  let these people be guided, please let them come to their senses... Ya Allah please protect us and help us to take action to prevent such horrendous crimes from happening in the future.

Updated to add: A video of Sheikh Abdul Nasir Jangda on muslimmatters.org with his response to the Boston Marathon tragedy. We need prayers for humanity.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=AqO21v68m_Q

Tuesday, April 9, 2013

Almost 9

2 (no, 4)  weeks ago:

Sarah, as you lie in my lap, or half-lie, your current favourite way to fall asleep, let me state the one thing that has struck me over the past month: I love the way you love me. I know a mother's love is unconditional and it is, but it is so fulfilling to see and feel your love, alhamdulillah. I've always been one for touchy-feely love and I can't put into words the way I feel when you come crawling towards me and put your head in my lap, or when we're just hugging cheek-to-cheek, or when you close your eyes and laugh when I tickle you... I love you so much and am so grateful for the blessing you are alhamdulillah.

Your current favourite person is your Ammaarah didi and you squeal and laugh when you see her. She loves you so much too in her crazy, almost violent ways and it's beautiful to hear both of you laughing together. Baba and Nanu also are the happy recipients of your excited, hand-clapping love as is Munawwar bi!

You've become very naughty and eating at the dastar-khwan has become almost impossible because you HAVE to get into everything. If by a miracle you're not interested in the food spread out, you're crawling at high speed towards the door or the nearest pair of slippers. I usually never manage to eat with everyone else or Baba who's always done early takes you away to the jhula or the tv room so the rest of us can eat in peace.

Your current obsession is learning to stand and now you will lean on the gaw takya and then stand up leaning against the wall. You love crawling under the table and chairs and start crying when stuck. You make clicking noises with your tongue when you're in your exploratory mode. You can say 'dadada' and 'tatata', when you're sleepy you say 'abbvwuu' and you rant using a combination of the sounds above when you're really frustrated.

You're not a fussy eater alhamdulillah. You eat rice cereal, khichdi, bananas, boiled potatoes, zatar, boiled dal (favourite!) and will bug your grandparents for tea whenever you see them having some.

Updated today: Sarah, you stood for a few seconds without any support today!
You do this really cute sideways   bending thing, then laugh when we copy you. You laugh when nanu starts aa chuchchu and are trying to learn how to say aao by extending your palm in front of you. You love grabbing peoples lips or noses -- Ouch!


You also got your first bruise when you fell two days ago.

As you ce closer to completing 9 months, I just want to say that despite all the sleepless nights (you're meeting all your other milestones so well, why not this one?! :'( ) and having to hover around you constantly, I love you so so much and am so grateful for you.

Lots of love,
Your mommy

Update

[Published more than a week after this post was written! :| ]

Hello, hello, assalamualaikum!

This is a reminder that this blog is not dead, and to add some content that will prevent this blog from falling completely into the mommy blog category. I have only 3 minutes before the current goes off so I just wanted to list what I've been doing these past few months:

  • Babysitting Sarah, chores, Babysitting Sarah, chores, etc.
  • Joined the Quran Certificate course from Al Huda! Alhamdulillah, yes, it definitely is one of the best decisions I have taken in my life so far, just like they said in the welcome email.
  • Cooking! Cooked more times than I have in the previous year (Not saying much at all since we had a cook :| )
  • Spending time with the fambly, though thanks to Sarah it's not always 100% 
  • Reading. One of the best books I've read in a LONG time: The Butterfly Mosque
  • I'm going to add some more parenting books to the list soon, insha'allah. Yes, people around me make fun of me for making parenting such an academic exercise, well, my kid, my rules!
  • That'll have to do for now. 8 month post coming up soon. Yes, very close to the 9 month mark. Thank you, Sarahbb or let's call you by your new name that Md chacha gave you: Doodhpeda!